Hi, this post is written in Bahasa Indonesia and English.
Indonesian version:
Akhirnya setelah jeda delapan tahun dari anak pertama, saya melahirkan anak kedua. Delapan tahun lalu setelah saya melahirkan anak pertama, saya pernah berkata dalam hati kalau saya nggak mau menambah anak lagi sebelum saya dan suami merasa mapan. Buat orang orang terdekat kami atau yang setidaknya pernah membaca blog ini pasti tau kalau setelah kelahiran anak pertama kami pada tahun 2014, kami memulai proses migrasi ke Australia. Melihat perjalanan kami, kami sangat bersyukur kalau akhirnya kami bisa hidup di Austalia dengan baik dan diberi kesempatan untuk memiliki anak kedua. Dan beginilah cerita kelahirannya:
Tanggal 4 Mei 2022 saya datang ke dokter kandungan di klinik rumah sakit Monash Health Dandenong sesuai dengan jadwal periksa, Saat itu usia kandungan saya sudah 39 minggu 4 hari. Waktu ditanya tentang gerakan bayi di dalam perut, saya menjawab kalau rasanya bayi sudah kesempitan di dalam perut karena badan saya ini kecil dan saya kira bayi sudah lahir sendiri di usia 38 minggu, Perut ini sudah keras dan rasanya sudah nggak muat lagi. Dokter saat itu menyarankan saya untuk cek CTG (detak jantung) bayi di rumah sakit. Jarak antara klinik dan rumah sakit untuk CTG kira kira 7 menit jalan kaki, tapi sebelnya hari itu hujan gerimis dan saya lupa nggak bawa payung, jadilah saya jalan dengan sedikit kehujanan. Di mana suami? Karena di rumah sakit masih ada peraturan kalau di zaman covid seperti ini lebih baik datang sendiri saja, akhirnya suami juga nggak menemani, lagipula jam periksanya bersamaan dengan jam pulang sekolah anak pertama kami. Hasil CTG saat itu baik baik saja tapi karena rumah sakit sedang tidak sibuk melayani ibu ibu melahirkan dan usia kandungan saya sudah matang, saya pun ditawari induksi, Saya tanya bagaimana proses induksinya? (kalau minum obat cytotec seperti anak pertama saya sih nggak apa apa, pikir saya). Si bidan menjelaskan kalau induksinya bakal pakai balon yang dimasukkan ke jalur lahir atau pakai alat yang seperti tampon yang juga dimasukkan ke dalam. Langsung deh saya nggak mau, soalnya nggak kebayang kan gimana rasanya. Lalu saya bilang, tolong saya di-induksi alami saja dengan 'membrane sweep', nanti kalo seminggu lagi masih belum lahir, baru saya pikirkan pakai alat itu. Akhirnya hari itu bidan melakukan pemeriksaan dalam dan ternyata saya sudah bukaan 2. Bidan pun melaksanakan 'membrane sweep' dan saya pulang.
Tanggal 6 Mei 2022, pagi hari sebelum jalan jalan keliling perumahan, saya lihat ada lendir bercampur darah waktu saya sedang di kamar mandi. Saya mulai senang karena saya pikir bayi akan lahir sebentar lagi. Tapi ternyata saya tunggu kontraksinya nggak datang-datang juga. Dan masih belum datang selama beberapa hari ke depan.
Hari Senin tanggal 9 Mei 2022, lagi lagi ada lendir bercampur darah keluar tapi kali ini lebih encer dari yang sebelumnya. Nah, karena ini sudah pernah terjadi dan selama ini kontraksinya cuman kontraksi palsu saja, jadinya saya nggak seberapa ambil pusing dan tetap melanjutkan aktivitas seperti biasa: jalan jalan keliling perumahan, nonton film dan main playstation - 'Planet Tycoon' (haha..).
Waktu main game itu (sekitar jam setengah 3 sore) saya merasakan kontraksi yang mulai teratur dan lumayan mengganggu konsentrasi, Akhirnya mesin PS pun saya matikan. Tidak lama setelah itu suami saya pulang ke rumah untuk persiapan jemput anak pulang sekolah. Saya bilang kalau rasanya perut ini kok mulai sakit ya. Suami bilang kalau setelah anak saya pulang dan makan, kita beritau rumah sakit saja. Awalnya saya bilang nggak perlu (tunggu kalau bener-bener sakit dulu saja) tapi untungnya saya menuruti saran suami karena waktu saya telpon mereka di jam setengah 5 sore, bidannya bilang kalau rumah sakit sedang penuh dan sepertinya saya harus pergi ke rumah sakit Casey yang jaraknya kira-kira sejam naik mobil dari rumah! Gila kan, padahal minggu lalu sepi. Tapi akhirnya pihak rumah sakit telpon balik dan bilang datang saja ke tempat mereka yang cuma 15 menit dari rumah karena kontraki saya sudah teratur, jeda 4 menit sekali dan durasinya 50 detik).
Kami pun ke rumah sakit, suami dan anak ikut mengantar dan membawakan tas. Di sana hanya saya saja yang boleh masuk karena hanya 1 orang pendamping yang boleh masuk dan saya bawa 2. Tiba di sana, hanya ada 1 ruang kosong terakhir buat ibu bersalin. Karena ruang yang tersisa hanya 1, persyaratan masuknya adalah harus minimal bukaan 4, kalau masih belum 4, harus pulang lagi.
Untungnya pas di-cek, bukaan saya pas di 4, jadinya saya diperbolehkan untuk pakai ruangan itu. Nggak lama setelah cek bukaan, saya jalan jalan di dalam ruangan. Nah, waktu saya jalan di dekat tempat tidur itu, saya mengalami kontraksi dan air ketuban saya pecah. Pecahnya ketuban ini cukup deras seperti adegan di film-film itu (ini nih bedanya dengan kelahiran anak pertama saya, di mana air ketuban saya tidak pecah sampai hampir bukaan lengkap dan akhirnya dipecahkan oleh dokter).
Setelah air ketuban saya pecah di sekitar jam 18:30 itu, kontraksi yang saya alami semakin heboh sehingga saya nggak kuat lagi jalan-jalan. Saya pun duduk di ranjang, ditemani oleh si bidan yang bernama Hollie dan asistennya, Charlotte, yang masih berstatus murid. Saya ditawarin apakah saya mau pakai gaun rumah sakit atau tetap pakai baju saya (casual dress warna abu-abu dengan daleman singlet biru), saya memutuskan untuk pakai singlet biru itu dan gaun abu abu saya buat usapin ke muka atau remet-remet atau distraksi apa pun itu soalnya kontraksi sudah semakin menyakitkan. Charlotte pun menawari saya untuk pakai waslap basah saja, jadi lebih dingin kalau diusapkan ke muka, jadi saya terima waslap itu, sambil sekarang mengubah posisi saya jadi tidur menyamping dan berpegangan di sisi ranjang. Supaya bisa membayangkan, saya tampilkan fotonya di bawah (gambar sebelah kiri).
Sekitar satu setengah jam setelah kontraksi itu saya merasakan ada yang mendorong keluar, seperti kepala bayi, saya pun memberitahu Hollie mengenai ini. Hollie bilang supaya ditahan dulu karena kalau beneran itu kepala, nanti tubuh saya akan reflex mendorong dan tidak bisa menahan lagi. Lagipula dokter yang berencana untuk datang memasang tube atau sejenis infus di tangan saya untuk jaga-jaga kalau ada pendarahan setelah melahirkan juga belum tiba di ruangan.
Kira kira lima atau sepuluh menit setelah saya merasakan dorongan itu, saya mengalami kontraksi yang benar benar kuat sampai nggak bisa ditahan lagi dan saya pun reflex mengejan, saya bilang ke bidan kalau sepertinya kepalanya sudah mau keluar nih, dan mereka pun mengonfirmasi kalau ini benar-benar kepala bayi. Mereka pun langsung memanggil bidan lain yang sedang nggak sibuk karena dokter masih sibuk, jadi tiba-tiba di ruangan ada sekitar 4 bidan sekarang.
Yang mengagetkan buat saya, waktu proses mengejan kali ini lebih menyakitkan daripada kontraksi, padahal seingat saya waktu melahirkan 8 tahun lalu, kontraksi itu lebih sakit dan mengejan itu lebih melegakan, tapi kali ini kebalikan! Kontraksinya sakit sekali sampai susah untuk mengejan nggak pakai suara, dan di bagian bawah sana rasanya seperti mengeluarkan durian, bukan semangka.
Lagi lagi seperti waktu melahirkan anak pertama, saya memerlukan episiotomi atau guntingan supaya bayi bisa keluar. Si bidan menjelaskan kalau kulit saya ini agak kaku, kurang elastis, kalau tidak digunting, nanti robekannya malah jadi lebih parah. Akhirnya diguntinglah, dan kayaknya mereka nggak pakai bius lokal karena saya masih kerasa kalau digunting.
Bidan Hollie memberi aba-aba untuk bernafas saja waktu kepala bayi sudah hampir keluar, dan nggak lama setelah itu kepalanya pun keluar, dan dengan dorongan terakhir, bahu dan badannya juga keluar semua - dan lahirlah anak kedua kami: Chelsea Eline Sinardianto pada hari Senin, 9 Mei 2022 jam setengah sembilan malam.
Si bidan mengingatkan saya karena proses melahirkan ini termasuk cepat, hanya sekitar satu setengah jam setelah datang ke rumah sakit dan 12 menit mengejan, kalau saya berencana punya anak ketiga dan akan melahirkan lagi, saya harus menghubungi rumah sakit secepatnya setelah saya merasakan kontraksi. Tapi saya bilang kalau kayaknya nggak deh kalau punya anak ketiga, dua kali melahirkan sudah cukup buat saya.
Setelah proses pengeluaran plastenta, menjahit kembali robekan dan lain-lain yang memakan waktu berjam-jam hingga dini hari, saya pun dipindahkan ke ruang rawat inap pasien (foto kanan atas). Karena lahirnya masih di musim covid dan hasil tes saya belum keluar, saya pun beruntung untuk mendapatkan kamar pribadi dengan kamar mandi dalam. Tapinya saya nggak mau berlama-lama di rumah sakit, nggak sampai sehari, Selasa, 10 Mei 2022 siang, saya sudah diperbolehkan pulang. Sebelum pulang, saya dan suami diajarin lagi bagaimana cara memandikan bayi dan kami pun dibekali buku tebal untuk panduan merawat bayi.
Demikianlah cerita kelahiran Chelsea. Punya anak beda 8 tahun begini seru juga karena kami harus belajar lagi dari awal, sedangkan Jose si anak sulung sudah mandiri dan bisa membantu menjaga adik. Oh ya, saat ini saya masih cuti dari kerjaan sampai akhir November tahun ini sehingga selama 6 bulan pertama, saya bisa fokus merawat baby :)
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English version
Mind my grammar error, I wrote this post quickly when baby was asleep :)
Finally after 8 years from my first born, I gave birth to my second. Eight years ago after I had my first son, I told myself not to have more child before we're financially stable. People who know us or anyone who've ever read this blog would know that after the birth of our son in 2014, we began our migration process to Australia. Thinking of how we managed to move and live here nicely, we're so grateful. And now we even got a chance to add the second addition to our family. Here's her birth story:
On May 4th 2022 I went to my appointment at Monash Health Dandenong outpatient clinic. I was 39 weeks and 4 days pregnant at that time. The doctor asked how's my baby's movement and I answered that I feel the baby's movement has been slightly reduced since a week ago, perhaps there's not much space inside because I'm petite - I personally thought that she would come out at 38 weeks, seriously. My tummy felt so hard and ready to pop. Doctor suggested me to do CTG scan at the hospital to check the baby's heart rate. The distance between outpatient clinic and the hospital is about 7 minutes walk, however it was a bit rainy and I forgot to bring my umbrella - so I was a bit grumpy to walk. Where's hubby?? He's not with me because of Covid's rules and regulations - I must come to my appointments alone. Anyway, he also needed to pick up our first son from school, so that's completely alright.
The CTG result was fine, but the midwife offered me induction because: firstly, the hospital wasn't busy at that time and secondly, I was almost full-term so having her now is better than keeping her inside. I asked the midwife about the induction procedure because I had cytotec pill for my first birth experience and I could cope that well, but she said that they don't use cytotec, instead they use balloon induction (foley bulb) or Cervidil. Alright, for those type of inductions, I wasn't convinced because of the 'inconvenience' down there. So, I asked the midwife for 'sweep and stretch' as a more 'natural' induction method than the artificial ones. The midwife who checked me said that I was 2cm dilated, so this membrane sweep method was quite promising at this stage. I then went back home after the procedure.
On May 6th 2022 right before I went for my morning walk routine, I saw my mucus plug (with blood) on the toilet. I was feeling happy and thought that the baby will come really soon! However, the long waited contraction didn't come and nothing happened in the next following days.
On Monday, May 9th 2022, again I saw another bloody mucus plug, but this time it was more watery than before. I didn't have high expectation this time, since I had seen my mucus plug three days ago and it didn't change anything - I was still pregnant - so I just continued my usual activity: walk around the residential area, watch movies and play 'Planet Tycoon' on playstation (haha..).
When I was playing game (around 2:30 pm) I started to feel some regular contraction and it distracted me from gaming, so I turned my PS off. My husband then came home to pick up Jose from school and I told him that my tummy is starting to hurt. He then said that after he pick up our son and we ate late lunch (or early dinner) - we should ring the hospital. At first I said I wouldn't call hospital because this contraction is just mild and we should wait until the contractions are getting stronger, but then I just rang them at 4:30 pm as per my husband's suggestion - just in case the hospital was busy at that time and they would need time to prepare a room. Gosh, it was a right decision because the nurse/midwife who picked up the phone said that the hospital was very busy at that moment and if they didn't have any more room, then I should go to Casey hospital (this hospital is one hour driving from home!). It was bizarre, thinking at how quiet the hospital was a week ago. Fortunately the nurse called me back and asked me to come to their hospital, where is only 15 minutes from home. By this time I had 50 seconds contraction every 4 minutes, but it wasn't too painful.
We went the hospital, my husband and son helped me to carry my bags, but they're stopped by the nurse before we entered the maternity ward. Because of covid restriction, only 1 support person is allowed to come in but I brought 2 - so, only I could enter the birth unit - alone. Only 1 room left that time. I need to be 4 cm dilated to be able to use the room, otherwise they would send me home.
Luckily I was 4 cm dilated, so I could stay. When I was walking near the bed, I got a strong contraction and suddenly my water broke. This 'water-breaking' moment was just like in the movie! (Unlike my first birth experience when my water didn't even broke until I was 10 cm dilated and then the doctor helped me to break it).
After my water broke, around 6:30 pm, my contraction was getting strong and painful to the point I couldn't walk anymore and I just sat on the bed. In the room, there were 2 midwives with me, Hollie, the registered midwife and Charlotte - midwife on practice. They asked me if I wanted to change to hospital gown, but I chose to wear my own clothes. I wore blue singlet and used my casual grey dress as a towel to squeezed during contractions. Charlotte offered me cold face-washer to soothe and it was a nice relief for me. Not long after that, the contractions were getting a bit too much so I changed my position - laying on my side and holding the bed rail.
About one and half hour from the first strong contraction, I suddenly felt a pressure from inside and I told Hollie about this feeling. Hollie asked me not to push and if it's the baby's head, my body would push by itself. At this moment, we're still waiting for the doctor who plan to put iv tube (just in case I bleed after delivery). Not even 10 minutes after I felt the pressure, I felt another strong contraction and I couldn't hold the push anymore. I asked the midwives if it's the baby's head and they confirmed it was! They called another free-midwives to help with the delivery, so 2 more came in to the room. I had 4 midwives helping me during pushing stage.
To my surprise, my pushing stage this time was more excruciating than the labor (contraction) stage. I remembered with my first one 8 years ago, pushing stage was like a 'relief' for me after waiting for complete dilation, but not for this time! The contraction during pushing stage was horrible and the ring of fire was no joke! Pushing without making any sound was impossible. Instead of feeling like pushing a watermelon, it felt like pushing out a durian.
Just like the first time, again I need episiotomy to help the baby out. The midwife explained that my skin wasn't stretchy enough and letting myself to have 'natural tear' would be more risky than making a cut, so they snipped it again. I could feel the sting, so most likely they didn't put local anaesthesia before cutting.
Hollie guided me to just pant and breathe when the baby was crowning and not long after that, the baby's head came out completely. With the final push, her shoulders and body slipped out and baby Chelsea Eline Sinardianto was born to the world on Monday, May 9th 2022 at 8:30 pm.
Due to my express delivery (only one and a half hour after active labor and twelve minutes of pushing), the midwife put a note on my hospital record and told me to ring the hospital immediately for my next birth! Yeah nah. I don't have any plan for my third - two is more than enough for me :)
After the birth of the placenta, the doctor finally came to stitch me (I got second degree of tear - just like before). It took few hours to complete everything. Finally, they moved me to the patient room - which was a private room for myself with en suite bathroom due to covid precaution. They haven't received my covid test result because everything just happened too fast. However, I didn't stay too long in the hospital. I asked them to discharge me on Tuesday, May 10th 2022 afternoon, during school hour so my husband could come inside - a day after delivery because we were completely fine. Before we left, I and my husband were given a 'refresher' of how to bathe a baby. We also brought the green book home - a complete guidebook to care a baby to 4 years old.
That's the story of my second birth experience. Having another baby after 8 years is exciting because we need to learn again from the start. Meanwhile, my first son Jose has been more independent and he is keen to help us caring the baby. At this moment, I am still on my maternity leave until November this year so I will use this precious time to care and bond with our second baby :)
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